From my library to yours,
Whether casual and informal or formal and purposeful, meaningful conversations matter. They connect us to one another, to ourselves and to the mysteries of life, to that which wants to be known and is bigger than any of us alone. Even as we read or discuss what we’re learning from a book or an article, we are engaging in a contemplative act, a thoughtful dialog, at the very least, with ourselves and the authors.
Noticing what’s resonating within us and sharing highlights from these experiences can be a low-cost, moving and simple way to begin and sustain important conversations about topics that matter to you, with people who matter to you. I invite you to let your relationship with these books (and the other resources offered here) point you to your true self, your interior life, inner yearnings and growth edges.
A collection of stories and narratives organized by Dori's
5 Guiding Principles
The books I’ve chosen to list here are among many favorites. Their authors are as committed as I am to encouraging meaningful conversations, healthy relationships, learning and growth. I have organized them into categories that have meaning for me – my five, guiding principles for life. Whether you access what’s here or other resources of your own, keep learning and allow yourself to be expanded, impacted and surprised by what emerges and wants your attention. Paying attention to what moves you is an advanced self-leadership skill.
Put Relationships First – beginning with the one with yourself, the Divine within and around you, and others (aka, The Conversation is the Relationship – Know Thyself)
Dancing in the Flames: The Dark Goddess in the Transformation of Consciousness, by Marion Woodman and Elinor Dickson
The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World, by His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu with Douglas Abrams
Keep the Lines of Communication Open (& Get Good at it) – know and develop a relationship with all of your parts and emotions; develop emotional literacy and bring this to everyone you lead, live with, care about and love (aka, The Process is the Action).
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships, by Marshall B. Rosenberg
Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When the Stakes Are High, by Patterson, Grenny, McMillan & Switzler
What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing, by Bruce D. Perry & Oprah Winfrey
Make Love the Most Important Thing – make love more important than you fears, doubts and concerns; learn how to begin in love and why it matters, personally, professionally, practically and spiritually (aka, Love Your Life, No Matter What Life Brings – A Shift In Perspective Is A Miracle)
The Art of Possibility: Transforming Professional and Personal Life, by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander
Make Meaning Regularly & Often – through contemplation, reflection and compassionate inquiry, we can experience true intimacy and grow by opening to the mysteries and wisdom within and around us; understanding and clarity emerge from there (aka, Activate Your Inner & Outer Observer – Nurture This Place Within Where Transformation, Empathy & Compassion Are Born).
Storycatcher: Making Sense of Our Lives Through The Power and Practice of Story, by Christina Baldwin
Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype, by Clarissa Pinkola Estés
The Meaning of Mary Magdalene: Discovering the Woman at the Heart of Christianity By Cynthia Bourgeault
The Wisdom Way of Knowing: Reclaiming An Ancient Tradition to Awaken the Heart, by Cynthia Bourgeault
The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Trauma and Adversity, by Nadine Burke Harris
After Jesus Before Christianity: A Historical Exploration of the First Two Centuries of Jesus Movements, by Erin Vearncombe, Brandon Scott, Hal Taussig, & The Westar Institute
Create A Purposeful Life (Career, Health, Relationships, Spirituality) – make space to know and honor that which wants to live and be expressed through you (aka, Ask, To What is My Life Consecrated? Align & Integrate Awareness).
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, by Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW
Help Them Grow or Watch Them Go: Career Conversations Employees Want, by Beverly Kaye & Julie Winkle Giulioni
It’s Not What You Sell, It’s What You Stand For: Why Every Extraordinary Business Is Driven By Purpose, by Roy M. Spence, Jr., with Haley Rushing
Sound Medicine: How to Use the Ancient Science of Sound to Heal the Body and Mind, Kulreet Chaudhary M.D.
Be A Free Range Human: Escape the 9-5, Create a Life You Love and Still Pay the Bills, by Marianne Cantwell
The Hidden Life of Trees: What They Feel, How They Communicate — Discoveries from a Secret World, by Peter Wohlleben & Mike Grady
I’d love to hear about what you’re learning, what’s resonating for you and how it’s changed who you’re being, how you’re relating, what you’re doing and how you’re doing what you’re doing. You can reach me here, or via LinkedIn, at my Whole Person | Whole Power™ Instagram or in my Whole Person | Whole Power™ Facebook group.
Helpful websites and other recommendations
Join Toastmasters International and have fun practicing and mastering the art of effective speaking, communication and articulation!
Personal Growth, Professional Development, Spiritual Evolution
Hire a coach, create an accountability partnership and/or join a sacred circle (personal and/or professional) to help you to grow and make the changes you envision for your life, personally and professionally.
Become the Role Model You Always Wanted
Find a mentor and ask to be in this partnership for at least six months or, ideally, one year. Define your shared intentions, how you will both be served by the partnership, and the actions, agreements and accountability processes you intend to follow.
Healing, Recovery, Crisis Management
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
National Substance Use and Disorder Issues Referral and Treatment Hotline – Call 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
Support Groups such as Alcoholics Anonymous – aa.org
If you’ve found other resources that you’d like to share, please do so. I welcome your input too. Enjoy!